There is nothing more annoying to me than when a woman uses the phrase, “It’s my body and my right to choose.” It’s as though dragging out that old bromide is the absolute, indisputable debate clincher and there is no response possible once it has been uttered.
If you don’t think about it very deeply, that phrase could be something that is part of the mantra and foundation of libertarianism. It would appear to be something that we should endorse, living in a country which was founded with the proclamation that we have the right to “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness”.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
In entering into one of these conversations, I always ask the individual whether this is a right that inures only to women or do men get to play on that same level playing field? Since it would be very un-PC and sexist to restrict that right to only one gender, naturally the response that I get (after some hemming and hawing) is that it applies to everyone.
My follow up to that answer normally runs along the lines of, “So, you’re saying that the man who is a rapist and acts to fulfill the commands his mind is issuing and his body is able to accomplish is justified in doing what he does? Or it’s okay for the mayor of San Diego to grab women’s butts or breasts because he finds that satisfying?”
Since they haven’t really thought about the logical conclusion to their statement, I always receive a horrified look and a gushy, “You’d have to be nuts to believe that,” kind of response. Implicit in their answer is the key to this entire issue. That is, there are certain things which society deems “proper behavior” and others which it does not condone.
With all the headlines that are coming out of the Obamacare debacle, I find myself having more or these conversations than formerly. Many of the women I know who voted for his second term did so because of “women’s issues”. And I find that, if you’ll pardon the pun, to be very fertile ground for debate.
When someone identifies herself as “pro choice” I normally offer the following scenario.
A woman goes to a restaurant which has an extensive menu. She might select the Lobster Newburg or order a garden salad for dinner. She has freely made a choice. No one has looked over her shoulder or coerced her into selecting one entrée over another. But if she chose the Newburg her bill is going to be higher than what she would have spent on the salad and she should be prepared to pay the price for it.
The one word that I find most lacking in the vocabulary of those who are “pro choice” is the word “wisely”. Yes, we all have the power to choose and we all exercise that every day. But to choose wisely, well that takes some thought and an admission that our decisions have consequences not only for us but for our society as well.
There is a reason that the word wisely is not a part of the “pro choice” lexicon. This is not meant as a condemnation of anyone who holds that view who has arrived at her position on the subject in a thoughtful way. Although I disagree with their position, I can respect the fact that they made it in an informed manner.
My statement is based on my observation of people who have gravitated to that position without thinking about all of its implications or who have merely adopted their view because all of their friends think the same way. It is predicated on my observation of how they deal with their acquaintance and friendships. These are merely my empirical observations – and I would be the first to admit that those are limited in number.
But, based on what I’ve seen, looking at the anecdotal evidence of how almost all of them conduct their lives, I cannot escape the conclusion that most of those who are “pro choice” have adopted their outlook for one simple reason.
They simply do not believe they should be held accountable for their actions.
Fortunately for them, the United States currently has a government that shares that viewpoint as it demonstrates the exact same behavior on a daily basis. But when people and their governments lose sight of their moral perspective, history teaches, in countless examples, that the end is very near at hand.
Like the house built over a sink hole, the abyss that will swallow us all may arrive at any moment. Then there will be no more choices to make as the sands of time sweep us under the roiling earth – perhaps to be replaced with something wiser and better.