The American Dilemma and How We Can Fix It


It’s a dangerous world.  It always has been.  Thank you, Lord that I was lucky enough to be born into a family who recognized that and did everything they could to protect me from it by teaching me how to fend for myself against many of the evils that might cross my path.

There is nothing like the safety net that comes from living in a cloistered, loving family environment.  Long before we toddle off to school, where our teachers hopefully continue that nourishment, we are taught by our parents the basics of being civilized children who will hopefully grow up to become civilized adults.

The behaviors that we learn to emulate are formed early.  If we are exposed to love and compassion, it is naturally easier for us to become loving and compassionate people.

If we are exposed to anger and selfishness, it is no surprise if we grow up to become violent and self-centered adults.

When I was growing up, divorce was a relatively unusual event (other than for Elizabeth Taylor and other Hollywood celebrities).  Even rarer (or at least we never talked about it) was a child’s being born out of wedlock.  Yes, it happened, but it was unusual rather than being what  today is quite customary.

Of course, this was before DNA tests which would reveal the paternity of the child had been discovered.  But in those days, even the most promiscuous generally knew who the father was, rather than having to guess among a field of twenty or thirty possible studs.

Today, rather than looking to address the question of civilized behavior as something which should be taught by parents, we have abrogated the role of the family and handed over that role to government.  (That is the progressive way).  What a tragedy.

We have replaced family values with government values – and it is hard to imagine how any institution can effectively micro-manage the lives of hundreds of millions who are, in essence, no more than statistics on a pie chart.  Even worse, it is hard to understand how an intelligent, informed citizenry would ever allow them to seize this responsibility.

It’s staggering to consider that currently nearly seventy percent of all black children born in America are born out of wedlock; for Hispanics it is fifty percent and for white children the rate is thirty percent.  A high percentage of these children will be raised in a single parent home – and a high percentage of those households will be dependent on social welfare programs for their subsistence.

If you look at the statistics on those who are most likely to be murdered by a gun, you will find that the those who are killed in hugely disproportionate numbers to their percentage of the population are black people – usually murdered by another black person.

Is there a connection between being born into a single parent home, violence and murder?  It’s always easy to manipulate any single statistic to substantiate a person’s point of view.  But when the same theme continues to recur, the prudent and honest person should at least consider what this might tell us.

We can have a long, emotional and heated debate about guns, gun control and violence.  It will offer both sides of the argument the opportunity to enjoy a cathartic moment.  But at the end of the day, it is not guns that kill people but people who are raised in impoverished family environments who are primarily responsible for the vast majority of the shooting.

We have gotten here thanks to government-instituted policies which are the root cause of this and many other of our problems.  And that’s why, despite all the bluster and bravado emanating from our pols in Washington, they will focus on a single, deflective issue rather than address the real cause of the problems which they, abetted by a self-serving electorate, have created.


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  1. ” But at the end of the day, it is not guns which kill people but people who are raised in impoverished family environments who primarily do the shooting.”

    And, unfortunately, also the dying. I believe the stats you are using do correlate, I have little evidence to back that up but, it seems to me to be little more than common sense. We, the electorate, have empowered our government, often with the best of motives, to destroy the black communities, and I sense that the rest of us will follow shortly unless we find a way to stop Leviathan. I have ideas but they are not fully developed partially because, for the present, how do we replace the family structure which we have so thoroughly destroyed?

    • In a rational, intelligent society, the general public would ask the fundamental questions, “What is happening” and the more important question, “Why”? But we still live in a land of abundance and most of us have not personally felt the impoverishment that those who are both the perpetrators and the victims live daily. Nothing will change until that occurs. Sadly, that day may not be far off.

      • That is, unfortunately, very true. We seem to have difficulty in learning from others, which is very sad.

      • We live in a world which is made up of people who look only for immediate self-gratfication – without the vision to wonder what might be better ahead if we directed our insights to more meaningful values.

        And, as with politics, the people get what they deservei.

      • True enough, and unfortunate but, still true.

  2. Once again, a blog that could fit out situation here very well too

  3. Sadly, we see this happening in Singapore too – not guns but the escalating rate of divorce, single parent homes and the ready acceptance by society.

    • It’s so nice to hear from you, Eric. I missed your insight and comments.

      As to your comment, if enough members of our various societies adopt behaviors that become the “new normal” despite their antithetic effecs on the members of that society, reversion to the mean will only occur after the fallacy of their way of living is exposed. That will only happen after their false systems collapse – and I don’t expect that the results will be pretty.

  4. Finnbar 5000 said:

    humanity is being displaced so others can get ahead, “divide and conquer.” its no mistake — i just wish i could figure a solution — great piece!

    • Thanks for your comment. It’s great to hear from you!

      The answer, as always, lies in individual responsibility – for those few of us who still believe in that old-fashioned concept. That we will never convince those who think otherwise is a given. But when the “dominoes fall” – as they inevitably will, it is best to be armed and prepared for what will surely come.

  5. [You may judge this to be only tangentially related to your topic, but I felt the connection:]

    Just yesterday, I was reading in Montaigne’s essays, and ran across these two items that demonstrate the ever-present, never-ending struggles with the degradation of culture.

    This first, from Montaigne (16th century) needs to be read slowly, enjoyed as a fine wine to be fully appreciated (although a different translator might have constructed it better):

    “To ground the recompense of virtuous actions upon the approbation of others is too uncertain and unsafe a foundation, especially in so corrupt and ignorant an age as this, wherein the good opinion of the vulgar is injurious: upon whom do you rely to show you what is recommendable? God defend me from being an honest man, according to the descriptions of honour I daily see every one make of himself.”

    He follows this paragraph by quoting Seneca, whose life was coincident with that of Jesus:

    “What before had been vices are now manners.”

    I suppose that the good and hopeful news is that every now and then pockets of true goodness emerge, spread, and may even positively affect whole cultures or sub-cultures, lifting us above the status quo, or at least slowing the degradation of cultural morals and mores.

  6. When I was a child I failed to appreciate my father’s wisdom in his statement, “This too shall pass.” As I’ve grown older I have come to believe that things of value will always have value and be appreciated – and momentary fads are just that – both fads and momentary. My personal goal is to hold on to that which is of value and ignore that which is worthless – realizing that “it too shall pass”.

  7. I always forward my mother your posts. She loves them.

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